Psalms 45:10-11 NKJV
10 Listen, O daughter, Consider and incline your ear; Forget your own people also, and your father’s house; 11 So the King will greatly desire your beauty; Because He is your Lord, worship Him.
The Psalmist tells us to listen, consider what is being said and incline our ear to hear more. What is being said that is so important that we need to give such attention?
The Psalmist says that we should forget our people and our father’s house. What does that mean? Who are “our people”? Who would be in “our father’s house”? I would suggest that these are the people and the influences that have molded, formed and shaped us into who we are; the significant people who have had a hand in our lives. Often these are members of our own household and family. How can I say that we should leave those influences behind? Jesus quoted from Genesis 2 when He said “a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”. It is right in a marriage relationship for the couple’s families to be left behind in the forming of the new relationship and household. The home that is being built is no doubt a combination of the two family cultures yet it is to be a new and unique relationship molded and crafted by the couple themselves.
Paul then adds in Ephesians 5:32 “This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.” If the marriage relationship between a man and a woman begins with a separation, how much more should our relationship with the Lord be the same seeing as it is the pattern for marriage?
Now please note that I am not saying that all of these influences are wrong or sinful, but they can be influences that can vie for our devotion and commitment. Even the best family traditions and practices can become somewhat of a stumbling block. How is this possible? Often the biggest hindrance to the “best” is something that is good, not evil.
It can be godly habits that often can lead us astray especially when they become comfortable or routine. Keeping our relationship with Christ vital and the central point to our lives, like any good relationship, will take time and effort. Just because some things worked for mom and dad does not mean they will necessarily work for me, especially since God knows what He needs to do to get me in the place of complete surrender to Him.
As well I am sure we all know of or can at least think of some marriages or families where the influences of a dysfunctional upbringing have wrought havoc in an otherwise stable family. Wounds or painful experiences from a parent or one in a significant role can become fodder for arguments for a couple, and things like “you treat me just like my mom did!” or “you sound just like my dad!” are uttered out of these painful memories. Can we imagine then if these things happen in our natural relationships that they might carry over into and affect our spiritual lives as well? I think we can more than imagine it, I would say many of us live under these kinds of past influences. This is where we come back to the Psalmist’s instruction, to forget your own people and your father’s house.
I know for many there are painful memories that seem insurmountable and yet I also know there are many who can testify that the loving encouragement and nurturing of a spouse, a close friend or mentor can bring healing and forgiveness, even restoration to the most troubled of upbringings. So it is with the Lord, His love is perfect and can overcome as well as hear our past hurts and wounds. His love is sufficient IF we are willing to surrender to Him. But that is a topic for another time.
Our parents as well often directly influence our view of God. Children often “see” God like they see their fathers. That is a hard burden to shoulder, and yet it should challenge us as parents to be a godly influence in our homes. We may not always be able to affect the perception but we can determine the reality of the way we live, interact and influence our children and others we have the opportunity to work with.
In the end I believe that God wants us to look at the things that pull us away or keep us away from Him. Whether good or bad influences, anything that competes for our loyalty or our devotion to the Lord is something that needs to be left behind or forgotten in our pursuit of God.
What is our level of commitment to the Lord? How committed are we to Him, His Kingdom and His will lived out in our lives?
If you will Consider and incline your ear; Forget your own people also, and your father’s house; then the King will greatly desire your beauty. He loves and desires you, and all the more as you leave behind everything else that draws you away from complete devotion to Him.
Because He is your Lord, worship Him!